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Trouble finding SQL Server Configuration Manager?
Its at “C:\Windows\System32\SQLServerManager11.msc” (2012)
or “C:\Windows\System32\SQLServerManager10.msc” (2008)
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Test Open Port The network on your LAN, can you ping SQL Server remotely on the default port 1433 on the specific IP Address (you can use PuTTY or Telnet to check this)
SQL Configuration Manager Check SQL Configuration Manager and see if the Network Protocol for SQL is enabled for TCP/IP, Named Pipes or Shared Memory
Firewall and Default Port Check the Windows Firewall make sure its allowing 1433. Since you are testing, best thing to do is to disable the Firewall in Windows Services to confirm whether its a firewall issue or not.
SQL Server Browser SQL Server Instances (instances have the form SERVER\SQLEXPRESS or SERVERNAME\SQL1 for example). Check in services and makes sure the “SQL Server Browser” is running. Also, you must allow a Firewall rule for port 1434, which is the default port of the “SQL Server Browser”. This is necessary because the SQL Server maps and forwards the traffic based on the Instance Name, so this is the service that resolves the instance name.
SQL Server Instance Port Varies SQL Server Instances does not necessarily run on port 1433, in this case you will have to have the SQL Browser Running which maps the name to the port and directs traffic to the correct instance. In your firewall, instead of allowing port 1433, you will have to allow sqlservr.exe Executeable Program. The port also can be determined by looking at the SQL Server log File in the MSSQL\LOG folder in Program Files. There will be an entry for “Server is listening on port …”
My recommendation for you is to install SQL Server Express Management Studio (SSMS) which is the GUI interface to manage the SQL Server Express instance. The link is below for both SQL Express and SQL Management Studio. And see if you can connect to the servers that way first. Another suggestion is for you to install both on a Local Computer and simply familarize yourself with SQL Server first before exposing it on the Network.
http://www.microsoft.com/en-us/download/details.aspx?id=29062
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